By LINDA MARGISON
from I Am You: Stories of Resilience, Courage, and Power
When 34-year-old Amber Teulker was growing up in Brownstown, Indiana, she would help her grandpa raise beagles. She was 4 at the time.
“Star was my favorite. She had one brown eye, one blue eye, and a white spot on her face,” Amber says. “She was the only one who tried to get out of the pen. I would help my grandad chase her down.”
Amber helped her grandpa train Star to hunt rabbits by taking a dead one, having Star sniff it, and then letting her hunt. They also showed Star in the Jackson County Fair with her puppies.
Star wouldn’t let anyone but Amber get her out of the truck—not even Amber’s grandpa. “Grandad and I would laugh every time he tried to get Star out and couldn’t,” Amber says. “It was something I had over him.”
Amber adds that spending time with her grandpa made the experience even more memorable.
“We shared a love for dogs and it made our time together special,” she says. “This was when I first realized how much I love being around dogs. I loved being around Grandpa’s dogs because they loved being around me.”
As she grew up and entered high school, Amber started thinking about what she wanted to do with her life, and one thing was certain: she wanted to do more with dogs.
“I enjoy dogs so much that I became a dog groomer. I always wanted to be, but wasn’t sure if I could,” she says. “My mom and dad supported me and that gave me the needed confidence to try.”
Amber decided to take classes at U Dirty Dawg grooming school in Greenwood.
“I went all the time and drove myself there,” she says. “It was hard my first time driving on the interstate.” To keep from driving so far every day for three months, she would stay with her sister in nearby Brown County.
Because the teacher had a child with a disability, she was patient when she showed Amber how to trim and groom the dogs, bathe them, and clip their nails.
“It was really hard work, but I didn’t give up,” she says. “We had homework every day, and when we got to the grooming part it was really hard, but I didn’t give up.”
If you ask Amber what she likes about dog grooming, she’s quick to respond, “I love everything! Shaving, clipping, bathing, everything! Especially painting toenails, I love that!”
Amber has worked professionally in the dog grooming business for five years, but continues to gain new skills. “I am learning how to style new breeds and how to run a business, because I want to run my own business some day.”
And she wants to embrace all aspects of that. “For my own shop, I want my own debt and my own office area, a part-work area and part-office. I want someone with me, too, that way I could rent half of the space and they could help me pay the bills.”
Finding that positive experience in her chosen field was a stark difference from her school days.
“High school was hard. It was upsetting,” she says. “I didn’t have that many friends. I got made fun of when I was in school.”
Amber explains that other students ridiculed her for her speech and her weight, which was heavier because of the seizure medications she was taking. “I kept hanging out with bad friends, not good ones. I know my mom didn’t like that.”
When she was a freshman in high school, she saw a girl’s change in weight and asked how she lost it. “I wanted to lose weight so no one would make fun of me anymore,” Amber says. “Since then, I stayed skinny after all that.”
As she neared graduation, Amber made a few friends who were nice and didn’t make fun of her. “They were sticking up for me,” she says. “If anyone came up to me and said my speech was funny, they’d come up and correct the words I was saying.”
By doing that, she says they helped her learn to speak in a way others didn’t mock. “I realized, if you don’t stand up for yourself, you don’t get anywhere.”
Amber says it’s now important to let people know who she is and how she feels. “I’m nice, kind, helpful, caring—really caring—I care a lot of people’s feelings. If someone falls down, I try to cheer them up, make them laugh, tell a joke, bring their joy up and not be looking down all the time.”
She adds that she’s really friendly to everyone and not afraid of strangers, but she stays cautious to protect herself. “If someone came up to me, I’d probably talk to them, so I need to watch that.”
Amber enjoys swimming, making art, and working in the computer lab on a newsletter during the day, but in the evenings she prefers to relax, watch movies, “Cops,” and “wraslin’”—or wrestling—her favorite. “I would go every Saturday and watch wraslin’ if I could,” she says.
Amber eventually had to stop driving because of her seizures, but she hopes to someday have her driver’s license again.
“My goal is to be able to drive again. I want to live on my own, have my own grooming business shop, and have more freedom,” she says, explaining that she has to have panic attacks under control in order to transition out of 24-hour-per-day, seven-days-a-week support. “With my free time, I’d go outside and walk around, ride my bike, and if I had a dog, I’d walk my dog everywhere.”
When that time comes, Amber already knows what breed of dogs she wants: corgipoo, a corgi-poodle mix, and Maltipoo, a cross between a Maltese and a poodle. But getting her own dogs is on hold until she gains more independence, which is one of her main goals for the future.
“I’m becoming more independent and doing things on my own,” she says. “It helps me stand up for myself.”